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Offline nursechick

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Any military wives?
« on: March 02, 2009, 09:09:06 PM »
My husband just left for BCT 2 weeks ago, and I am so sad. I won't see him again until June! I can't imagine all the ladies dealing with a deployment right now. Is anyone else going through the same misery as I am right now? :'(

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Re: Any military wives?
« Reply #1 on: March 02, 2009, 10:47:01 PM »
We have MANY ex-military wives on here.  Some of us are Vets and some are not.   I am a Vet and RedHighHeels is a Vet. 

If you need something PM me.  There are many of us who know how much it sucks.

Thank you for yours and your husband's service to our country.   ;D

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Re: Any military wives?
« Reply #2 on: March 02, 2009, 11:02:07 PM »
Yep, there are many military wives on here.

Cypher and I just happen to know how it is to be the wife at home, and the one that gets sent away...
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Re: Any military wives?
« Reply #3 on: March 03, 2009, 09:37:11 AM »
What does BCT mean?  I was thinking you meant to say BMT - which is Basic Military Training, but now I am not sure.   :)

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Re: Any military wives?
« Reply #4 on: March 03, 2009, 09:44:33 AM »
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In the United States, recruit training in the Army is called Basic Combat Training, in the Air Force it is called Basic Military Training or "BMT", in the Navy and Marine Corps, it is called Recruit Training and in the Coast Guard, it is called "Basic Training."

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Re: Any military wives?
« Reply #5 on: March 03, 2009, 10:26:02 AM »
What does BCT mean?  I was thinking you meant to say BMT - which is Basic Military Training, but now I am not sure.   :)
You darn Air Force People...

To me BMT means Bacon, Mayo and Tomato sandwich.  ;D

NurseChick, your husband chose the right branch!

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Re: Any military wives?
« Reply #6 on: March 03, 2009, 08:54:25 PM »
haha thanks. I'm just dying to talk to him. He just got moved to the training battalion and so I probably won't have much communication with him at all for at least the next 5 weeks. I have gotten 2 letters though...he said some guys were already trying to get out 2 weeks into BCT because it was so hard being away from their families. One guy went AWOL, one threatened suicide, one had seizures...I'm sitting here thinking "man, already wanting out??!" UGH. It's going to be a LONG 3 months.

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Re: Any military wives?
« Reply #7 on: March 03, 2009, 09:51:41 PM »
It is a hard road to walk being a military wife. Sounds like your just getting started and I wish I knew what to say. I was so young when my husband went to basic. My aunt held me in her arms when I cried. All I know is absence makes the heart grow fonder. I wish you many happy memories and plenty fun adventures. I got to see Europe in my 20's and loved it. I thank you for the sacrifices you are making.
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« Reply #8 on: March 04, 2009, 10:35:03 AM »
haha thanks. I'm just dying to talk to him. He just got moved to the training battalion and so I probably won't have much communication with him at all for at least the next 5 weeks. I have gotten 2 letters though...he said some guys were already trying to get out 2 weeks into BCT because it was so hard being away from their families. One guy went AWOL, one threatened suicide, one had seizures...I'm sitting here thinking "man, already wanting out??!" UGH. It's going to be a LONG 3 months.

It will seem like 3 months is a long time if you focus on that, but try to find something else to spend your time on and that will help.  It will help him a lot to if you are supportive when he finally does get to call.  I can't even begin to make you understand the amount of time he will stand in line to get those 5 minutes on the phone with you.  (FYI, if you skip church on Sunday you can go ahead and start standing in line early, shortens the wait tremendously!)

And as for people trying to get our already, they are just weeding out the crazy ones!  LOL.  Having been through Basic myself, I can tell you that you can look forward to your husband coming home with some great stories of the crazy crap people come up with to go home early.  Basic was probably my favorite time in the military, your husband will do things in training that he will never do again.  Some of the weapons we shot were awesome, and throwing that first hand grenade!!!  Of course, I would go do it again right now if they would just let me do basic and then come back home, I would love to be in shape like that again.  ;)

Where is your husband at?  I was at Ft Jackson, SC in the heat of the summer.  Hopefully he was lucky and got to go somewhere that the climate is working with him right now.
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Re: Any military wives?
« Reply #9 on: March 04, 2009, 10:50:09 AM »
I went through BMT in San Antonio in July.  JULY!  Ugh.

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Re: Any military wives?
« Reply #10 on: March 04, 2009, 11:04:47 AM »
I have you beat - first day of BMT was August 12th   :P

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« Reply #11 on: March 04, 2009, 11:15:52 AM »
WOW, two people even dumber than I! 

Just kidding, I love you guys.  :-*
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Re: Any military wives?
« Reply #12 on: March 04, 2009, 01:47:20 PM »
Here's my .02 for what it is worth...

I agree with Red totally when she said Basic is a weeding out process.  You really wouldn't want him to serve with people who can't make it through Basic mentally and physically.  The folks who were trying to get out that early didn't belong there in the first place.

Hell, no one who knows me now can figure out how I made it through - LOL!  Especially people who knew me from before the military are surprised. 

Expect some really sad lonely letters and very short phone calls while he is there.  They break you down physically and emotionally during this time and then build you back up.  Know that it is still a kinder and gentler process than it was when any of us was there.

Know that during this process he is still being well cared for.  Also know that he is very busy and learning a lot of important stuff while he is there. 

I think the most encouraging things people said to me in letters and phone calls were not that they missed me, but that they were "proud" of me and that they knew I could do it and things like that.  Try to focus more on the encouragement and how proud you are instead of missing him, even though you do.  Those phone calls mean EVERYTHING, and they are very short.

He will also probably graduate with a list of about 10 restaurants he is dying to go to.  The food is not that great and I think we had about 4 minutes to eat it at meals.

Hang in there, and keep busy.  Maybe read a book like Twilight - Red says she can't put hers down.   ;D

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Re: Any military wives?
« Reply #13 on: March 04, 2009, 01:53:58 PM »
Here's my .02 for what it is worth...

I agree with Red totally when she said Basic is a weeding out process.  You really wouldn't want him to serve with people who can't make it through Basic mentally and physically.  The folks who were trying to get out that early didn't belong there in the first place.

Hell, no one who knows me now can figure out how I made it through - LOL!  Especially people who knew me from before the military are surprised. 

Expect some really sad lonely letters and very short phone calls while he is there.  They break you down physically and emotionally during this time and then build you back up.  Know that it is still a kinder and gentler process than it was when any of us was there.

Know that during this process he is still being well cared for.  Also know that he is very busy and learning a lot of important stuff while he is there. 

I think the most encouraging things people said to me in letters and phone calls were not that they missed me, but that they were "proud" of me and that they knew I could do it and things like that.  Try to focus more on the encouragement and how proud you are instead of missing him, even though you do.  Those phone calls mean EVERYTHING, and they are very short.

He will also probably graduate with a list of about 10 restaurants he is dying to go to.  The food is not that great and I think we had about 4 minutes to eat it at meals.

Hang in there, and keep busy.  Maybe read a book like Twilight - Red says she can't put hers down.   ;D

The Twilight series is good.  I am nearly done with the second one.  I know Eric, I am taking my sweet time.
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Re: Any military wives?
« Reply #14 on: March 04, 2009, 02:24:41 PM »
Oh, I am finishing #3 as we speak and I only bought the first one last Wednesday! 
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